Confessions of a Sometime Solo Traveler

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I don’t want to imply that my wife Joan and I have been together for a long time but our first date was shortly after Ronald Reagan was elected President and we were married the same year as Charles and Diana. But despite marrying my favorite travel companion, sometimes I travel alone.

Navajo Trail - Bryce Canyon National Park

Navajo Trail – Bryce Canyon National Park

Alone By Choice

Not counting business trips and press trips where my wife is not invited my default assumption is that if I am going someplace then my wife is coming with me. But, for years I had more vacation than she did. She was OK with me traveling during those weeks… provided that I traveled to someplace she did not want to see or in a fashion she did not want to travel. And while I love to travel with her there are pluses and minuses.

When I travel with Joan:

+ I enjoy our time together
+ We built shared memories
– I have to make sure she gets fed in a timely fashion or she gets cranky

When I travel without Joan:

+ I get up when I want to – talking her into getting up to see a sunrise is less likely than staying up to see the sunrise
+ Camping is an option – The joke is that Joan’s idea of roughing it is slow room service
+ I see twice as much
+ I meet more people
– I get more lonely

Virgin River Narrows - Zion National Park

Virgin River Narrows – Zion National Park

Road Trip

One of my first trips by myself was a road trip to the Grand Canyon, Bryce Canyon, Zion National Parks and to Antelope Canyon. I camped in a tent on this trip so it qualified as something Joan would not want to do. Granted in the middle of the night in a windstorm at the North Rim of the Grand Canyon or when the temperature dropped below freezing in Bryce Canyon, I could see the wisdom in her decision. But I also got to get up at dawn to see the sunrise over Bryce Canyon and to trek solo up the Virgin River in Zion to the “Narrows”. That hike in Zion and the Navajo Trail at Bryce down into the towering hoodoos are two of the best hikes I have ever taken.

I took some of my favorite pictures on that trip and did not have to inconvenience anyone else with how many pictures I wanted to take. When I travel with my family I feel more rushed (although they will tell you I still take my time).

I don’t mind a long road trip by myself with just me, my thoughts and my podcasts to listen to. Driving through the Southwestern USA is particularly peaceful. At points in Northern Arizona you might not find a single radio station. The landscapes are barren and majestic. My longest day driving was 14 hours back from Zion. It was supposed to be a 2 day drive but at some point, I had had enough alone time.

Monte Alban - Oaxaca, Mexico

Monte Alban – Oaxaca, Mexico

Mexico

Some of my trips without Joan had included 15 volunteer trips with a group to build houses in Tijuana. But Tijuana, being right next to the U.S. is not a typical Mexican city so I felt like I had been to Mexico 15 times and never seen the country so I planned a solo trip to Mexico City and Oaxaca. Joan was still wary at that time of going to a country where you could not drink the water so this qualified as a trip she did not miss out on.

I stayed in hostels. The one in Mexico City was just OK in part because there was some confusion over which bed was mine. Coming into a dark hostel room and finding someone in your bed is not fun. The hostel in Oaxaca was a joy. $14 a night for a room for two (but no roommate) and a great breakfast. I met people at the hostel and struck up conversations. I did not form any life long friendships but it did lead me trying crickets in the town square so that should count for something. I find I look for more interactions when I am by myself, perhaps just out of loneliness. I am more likely to strike up a conversation with the cab driver about his guitar when I am by myself as I did in Oaxaca.

A solo traveler is easier to approach for others as well. A businessman in Mexico City sat down next to me on a bench and we talked for the better part of an hour in my broken Spanish about his family and mine. I had a stranger, who was a local Mexican weaver, strike up a conversation in the zocalo in Oaxaca and ended up with him as my tour guide the next day to some of the sites as well as his shop (Oaxaca, Mexico – Felipe the Weaver (part 1) – Video Episode 46).

Temple of the Sun - Teotihuacan, Mexico

Temple of the Sun – Teotihuacan, Mexico

Conclusion

Perhaps the best thing that comes for me out of solo travel is the reminder that as much as I enjoy having control of my schedule, as much as I enjoy not having to make someone else happy, as much as I enjoy the interactions I would not have, I am part of a couple for a reason. Being apart reminds me I only want to be a sometimes solo traveler.

related links:

Southwest USA Road Trip – Bryce / Podcast Expo – Episode 17
Southwest USA Road Trip – Zion National Park – Episode 18
Strange Food Encounters #3 – Bugs in Oaxaca, Mexico – Photo
Mexico Trip Journal – Day 5 – Oaxaca
Mexico Trip Journal – Day 6 – Oaxaca
Mexico Trip Journal – Day 7 – Oaxaca
Mexico Trip Journal – Day 8 – Oaxaca
Oaxaca, Mexico – Felipe the Weaver (part 1) – Video Episode 46

This post was original posted at solitarywanderer.com – Confessions of a Sometimes Solo Traveler

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by Chris Christensen

I am the host of the Amateur Traveler. The Amateur Traveler is an online travel show that focuses primarily on travel destinations and what are the best places to travel to. It includes both a weekly audio podcast, a video podcast, and a blog.

3 Responses to “Confessions of a Sometime Solo Traveler”

esmith7273

Says:

Chris,
This is a great post. I think you and I have discussed this on a number of occasions, but I am married and always travel alone. My wife has never been interested in traveling, but she’s smart and knows who she married and accepts my unexplainable need to travel even though she can not understand . We do ‘occasionally’ go places together, but when we do, those trips are all about her. To even attempt to get her on my type of crazy schedule would be suicide for me, and wouldn’t be enjoyable in the least for her.
 
Thanks for a thoughtful, well- written piece.

Tristan

Says:

I’m all for solo travel. I’ve been living in and traveling through Mexico for almost 6 months now and been solo the whole time. It’s great. I love doing what I want when I want. Does it get lonely? Sometimes. But I’d rather be traveling alone than not traveling and since I don’t have anyone to travel with, traveling alone wins out. 
 
And I love solo road trips, too. Like you said, driving 14 hours because you can is a great feeling.

Minh Nhat

Says:

A great trip. Thanks for your post. I intend to travel alone in the future. Your experience is very useful for me. Hope to see more your post. It’s very passional and exciting.

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